It sometimes bother us, especially girls, how we think that we're not as good looking as others. Maybe it makes us insecure about how we look, about what people think of our appearance.
And maybe we're wondering how it would feel like to be good looking. Wishing we have a perfect hair, perfect teeth that shines when you smile, dimples on our cheek and a face that gets hundreds of likes when we take a selfie.
And maybe it makes us sad. No, not sad, but more like wistful. Because we're not pretty. Not beautiful. At least beautiful according to the society.And sad because we think that no boy will have a crush on us because we're not pretty. And because our crush will not like us back.
Yeah, I get those feelings sometimes. Even if I'm the kind of girl who doesn't give two fucks about how I look, a kind of girl who prefers to read books than shopping for cute clothes, a kind of girl who wears black t-shirts and jeans most of the time, I'm still a girl who has insecurities. I hate the fact that maybe my crush doesn't like me back because I'm not pretty. But you know what? I learned a lot of things everyday. About life. About myself. And lately I've been feeling like, ain't nobody got time to force ourself to be pretty for a crush?
And people keep telling the same things about how beauty comes from the inside, how everyone is beautiful, et cetera. And we try to believe it. Sometimes we do, sometimes we can't. Because we know that it's a sugarcoated bullshit.
Once I read a tweet on twitter,
"Instead of saying that everyone is beautiful, we should say that it's alright not to be pretty." (source)
And I was thinking, yes, why we never think like this before.
After all, what is the use of a pretty face anyway?
People will befriend us not because of our face, they befriend us because we're nice.
Your success will not be defined by how pretty are you, but how hard you work.
You will get your soulmate who loves you for who you are, not how you look.
"You don't gave to be pretty. You don't owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your coworkers, especially not to random men on the street. You don't owe it to your mother, to your children, you don't owe it to civilization in general; Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked "female"" (source)
The society and the beauty product commercials will always persuade you to look pretty, to show yourself, to be beautiful. But why should we? Women are not meant to be commercialised. Beauty products company and the society should not pressure us to be something we're not.
Because when we are most comfortable with our self, that is our greatest moment. Don't let society define you just because your face. This is something that we're born with. Why would hundreds of female population do a surgery because they think their nose is too big, or their lips are too thin, or their foreheads is too wide? Isn't it the same like denying what God has given? Be thankful. Accept and respect yourself.
Society will always, always, find something wrong with us. Searching for any flaw, any little difference that we have. They will point it out and bring us down. So why bother? Why should we please society with our supposedly pretty face?
People should judge us by how we act, how we think, how we make choices, how we manage the things that we can control, that kind of things, and not based on how we look and other things that we cannot choose.
"What you look like should not affect the choices that you make. It should certainly not affect the friends you make—the friends that wouldn’t want to be in relationship with you if you did not meet a certain physical standard are not the friends that you want to have. Go out for jobs that you want, that you’re passionate about. Don’t let how good looking you feel like you are affect the way way that you treat your children. And certainly do not make how well you feel you align with the strict and narrow “standard” that the beauty industry and media push be critical to your happiness, because you will always be miserable. You will always feel like you fall short, because those standards are designed to keep you constantly pressured into buying things like make up and diet food and moisturizer to reach an unattainable goal. Don’t let your happiness be dependent on something so fickle and cruel and trivial. You should feel beautiful, and Dove was right about one thing: you are more beautiful than you know. But please, please hear me: you are so, so much more than beautiful" -(source)
But sadly we live in an era where people idolize one another because their physical advantage. Teenagers who are born in a rich family and blessed with pretty face and lives inside a circle of an up-to-date society will be more likely to receive attention in social media.
Don't you see those kids in ask.fm who get famous for being pretty?
And sadly do you know that 'gaul' and 'eksis' kids receive more recognizing and 'fans'/'followers' than those who have brilliant mind?
And I've been thinking,
what will happen in this generation's future if people start to judge and idolize one another by their looks and not their accomplishment or their personality? just think for a moment.
Notes and Disclaimer
Many of the contents are inspired by:
Mbak Bianda's post (click here)
Mbak Chikianwar's post (click here)
Sarahnurk's askfm pots, which is amazing :) (click here)
And also some of the sentences/quotes used here are not mine, they're copied from another blogs (which are copied from another sources hehe) So thank you a lot to the aforementioned people, because you guys have been an inspiration :)
I write this because I think more people especially females need to be aware of this 'beauty crisis' :)